I have one friend, who has been “in love” with the same guy for over two years. For the sake of respecting her anonymity, I will refer to her as Jane. Any rate, Jane pined over this guy with a passion that bordered on annoyance. I had several classes with her, and when said guy would disappoint her in any way, she would cry and bemoan his traitorous nature. He would succumb to many of her needs by staying away from girls since he considered Jane a good friend. I pitied the guy deeply because Jane became too much of a weight for him. An anchor that refused to let the ship leave or have any freedom to move about. Finally, he could stand it no longer and began to ask another girl out. Jane was devastated and pointedly did not hide her devastation. Everyone soon learned of their fall-out. Although I tried to comfort her, I felt no real sorrow for her. By clinging to this guy like she has been, she was depriving him of happiness. I ask you, if you claim to love someone so much, why would you do something like that?
I honestly don’t know if I believe in love. Or maybe I’ve never come across its pure form. But all I’ve witnessed is mouths speaking that dreadful L word, yet it is composed of undercurrents of jealousy and selfishness. Everyone should live by Brian Kinney’s example and that is if you love something enough, let it go.